In life, attitude is everything. The circumstances that have shaped our lives are as unique as our personalities — no two are the same — yet our ability to grow as individuals, to evolve into more compassionate, loving, and conscious people, depends not on what has happened to us but on our attitude toward these situations. When faced with hardship, do we lie down or step up? Do we resist, or embrace the situation for growth?
Ultimately there are two attitudes we can take in life: the attitude of a victim or of a creator.
The victim cannot see beauty, abundance, or the inherent perfection of each moment, because he has an idea of how things should be, an idea that has inevitably been violated, an idea at odds with what is. This incongruity results in anger — anger toward life, toward god. It manifests in the victim as a passive, depressive heaviness, inertia, and seeming disinterest, appearing more like sadness than anger. It is the ultimate rejection of what is: hatred of self, violence toward life.
The only way to break out of this victimhood is by taking the role of the creator. A creator praises his creation; a victim criticizes. A creator lives in appreciation; a victim in complaint, not taking responsibility. These are total opposites. The creator embraces whatever comes his way. He says yes to everything, and so he lives his life in abundance. A victim, on the other hand, is resentful and negative. He cannot see the perfection or beauty of life, because he has a rigid idea of how things should look. Shrouded in a cloak of passivity, the victim feels the ultimate rage: the rejection of existence, the denial of what is.
Whenever I look at my life with a “no,” with an idea of how things should be, I am rejecting life. Because I cannot control, I will not play. I cannot understand, so I will not accept. Such is the obsessive extremism of a fearful intellect; its complications suck all the joy out of life. Consciousness lives in the union of the heart. When you live from the heart, there are no questions. When you are a creator, the desperate need to understand disappears and is engulfed by the pregnant joy of pure being. The heart wants for nothing more when it has found love.
How do I transform from victim to creator? By focusing on consciousness, on the silent depths that lie within us all, until I become the mind without thought. When you notice your resistance — something could be better in this moment . . . something is unjust — let go. It’s not true. Remember that when you flow, when you surrender, you are being god. When you are fighting what is, you are a resented child who won’t take responsibility.
In actuality, god is in everything; you are god within everything, and it’s all your creation.
And god is joy.
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Isha Judd is the author of Why Walk When You Can Fly? She is also the founder of the Isha Foundation Education for Peace, which is headquartered in Uruguay. Originally from Australia, she has lived in South America for the past eleven years, where she has built a large following as a widely recognized writer and spiritual teacher. Isha travels throughout the world giving conferences and seminars on consciousness and the Isha System. You can visit her online at www.whywalkwhenyoucanfly.com.